Fear II

Fear is contrary to happiness

Most people carry the burdened of fear. They fear failure, not having enough money, death or bad health, and what others think. Little things, like a negative Facebook comment, missing an appointment, spending too much, or the what-ifs of an upcoming event can grow into debilitating anxiety, if mismanaged. Fear is the enemy of happiness. You can become so worried about what can go wrong during your upcoming vacation that you become so exhausted, agitated, and apprehensive that you make yourself miserable when you should be having a good time.

While fear has a role in helping keep us safe and secure, most of the time fear serves no purpose. Separating beneficial fear from unhealthy fear is an important part of finding happiness.

Political and religious propaganda is purposely designed to control people by creating fear. Today’s politicians want you to fear for your livelihood, illegal aliens, guns, abortion, rich people, poor people, lost liberty, technology, climate change, inflation, white decline, terrorists, crime, socialism, diversity, and the other Party.

Religious leaders have always used fear to herd their flock. Fear of death, fear of knowledge, fear of doubt, fear of evil, and fear of others are the fake fears of the faithful. Many of today’s religions have hitched their fear train into the political fear propaganda. It is all quite shameful.

Our country was founded on the basic freedom to find happiness. Religious freedom was considered important to people’s happiness. Yet today, our political and religious leaders seem determined to create unhappy people by using big-lies to stoke fear and hatred.

FEAR

Fear is a powerful motivator.

 In this post I will talk about how fear is used to manipulate our thoughts, control our behavior, and effectively enslave us.  It can be purposefully as with propaganda or religions ‘teachings’ or it can occur organically through cultural constructs and social interactions.

 I will show the odd relationship between fear and our sense of well-being, and how important it is to understand fear and its consequences if we are to find happiness.

 Happiness cannot be found outside of yourself.

That is different than saying what is outside yourself cannot cause unhappiness. The truth that happiness can only be found within does not say that happiness cannot be crushed by what is without.

 All of the great spiritual teachers, masters, and philosophers of the world share the same message that happiness cannot be found outside of us, in the external world. There is no person, place, material possession, or amount of money that will bring you true, lasting happiness.

 Understanding fear tactics

Fear can sway opinions but knowing the deliberate and strategic ways in which our fears are exploited can help lessen its effects.

 For example, fear can be used to drive votes toward a particular candidate or party—a method that relies on our natural instinct to find safety in numbers. Studies show that messages with fear are nearly twice as effective as messages without fear. As you read through the various political use of fear to manipulate voters, you will have no difficulty seeing how these strategies have been successfully used to control you and others.

 I hope, after reading how fear is used as mind-control, you will be less susceptible to influence and more of an independent-thinker.

 Campaigns use fear to herd people to a candidate as part of a group. Politicians using this strategy use deception to show that they (or their party) are best suited to address a specific issue. Once that is established, they make people scared about that issue causing them to seek comfort in the ranks of the group perceived as most capable.  It is successful mind-manipulation that has been around for a long time.

 Groupthink

The term "groupthink" was derived from the word, "doublethink" in George Orwell's novel, "1984,"  coined by William H. White in 1952. It connotes "a deterioration in mental efficiency, reality testing and moral judgments as a result of group pressures." The primary principle of groupthink is that "The more amiability and esprit de corps there is among the members of a policy-making-in-group, the greater the danger that independent critical thinking will be replaced by groupthink, which results in irrational and dehumanizing actions against out-groups." "In-group," members give up their own "independent critical thinking" and replace it with the thinking of the group.  Their words and behavior parrot those of the group

 Campaigns use fear to drive votes away from political opponents. This strategy uses facts, misleading statements, and lies about the opposing candidate with claims that an election victory for the opposition will lead to outright disaster. They attack on a personal level casting doubt about the physical or mental capacity of their opponent employing fear to make people doubt the competitions competency.

 Campaigns use fear to reduce voter turnout. When supporters are made anxious about an election or their candidate, they tend to avoid information about the candidate or the election, for fear of confirming those suspicions. They become apprehensive about voting for a ‘questionable’ candidate or in a rigged election. Raising anxiety around an election or candidate is a common tactic used to suppress voter turnout for an opponent. In elections that are often decided by just two or three percentage points, these voter suppression strategies can be quite effective, even if only 5% of voters are convinced to stay home.

Divisive campaigns are an extension or enhancement of groupthink politics, by using a combination of herding the group and driving people away from the opponent. Fear is used to make people run to the group, and fear is used to demonize the other side.  This creates a toxic mutual hate environment where voters despise and fear those viewed as outside of the safe group. Think of all the derogatory terms used on social media to demean the others. You will see bigot, commie, extremist, elitist, idiot, moron, nutjob, and shill used as hateful adjectives in conjunction with an identified group. The purpose of these divisive campaigns is to enlist members of the group to fight for the Party or candidate and against the other Party or candidate thus strengthening camaraderie against a common enemy.

 The Cult is an extreme example of groupthink. Studies show that cults are created when a charismatic figure creates a situation that is strong and isolating, without any clear escape route. In that situation the average person can cave to the traumatizing pressure of brainwashing. He creates ignorance of the principles of the subject’s social surroundings, then uses fear of the outside control subjects. Fear and information isolation are the tools of a cult leader.

 False memories and false belief.  Our minds make memories out of our perceptions, stories we’ve heard, images we’ve seen, and gap-filling when perception fades. Research shows, this happens regardless of the truth or reality of those inputs.  False memories are as common, maybe more common, as true memories. All your beliefs are based on your memories; therefore, you are as likely to hold false beliefs as real beliefs.  When you let this sink in, you will find it very disturbing. You do not know what you think you know and what you believe is based on a lot of fiction.

 Cognitive dissonance is the state of discomfort felt when two or more thoughts contradict each other. The clashing cognitions may include memories, ideas, beliefs, or behavior.  When a person learns new information that challenges a deeply held belief or acts in a way that is contrary to a favorable self-image, that person may have cognitive dissonance and feel compelled to somehow resolve those negative feelings.

 People experiencing cognitive dissonance may feel anxious, guilty, or ashamed and as a result may try to hide their actions or beliefs from others, rationalize their actions or choices, shy away from debates about those topics, avoid learning new information that challenges their existing beliefs, and ignore research, newspaper articles, or doctor’s advice that causes dissonance.

 Political campaigns destroy civil society and infringe on general happiness. You can see where I am going with this. Political campaigns use groupthink and fear to implant false memories and beliefs resulting in a fragile divided populous susceptible to the negative thoughts and behaviors caused by cognitive dissonance.  Because of our politics we are a nation of agitated uncivil unhappy uninformed people. And it all goes back to being manipulated by scaremongering.

 What can you do about it?

Understanding fear.

Perhaps the best way to prevent being manipulated is to understand the emotion of fear. Fear induces withdrawal, stepping back, being cautious. Fear and anxiety cause us to stop and re-assess. But often when we re-assess because of fear, we tend to seek out information that reinforces the idea that a threat exists. That is what politicians want you to do, and they oblige by flooding the media with fake news to reinforce their brainwashing -  ripe for the picking.

 If you’re experiencing fear, outrage, or disgust while listening to a politician, it is important to understand that statements made by politicians and candidates are made for strategic reasons that extend beyond changing your vote to demobilizing the electorate.  They are building an army of mindless drones, who are eager to put the politician’s cause in front of reason

 Fear has a good side – use it to your advantage.

Fear, like hope, can be very motivating and is not inherently bad. The challenge is to identify when fear is being used deceptively in order to control you. For example, intentional distortion of evidence and disinformation are used to foment fear for political purposes. Some research suggests that a simple awareness of bias and false information can help you combat the brainwashing effect. The understanding that someone is attempting to manipulate or influence you can lead to your eliminating the intended effects and may even cause the ‘fear appeal’ to backfire.

 Conspiracy theories.

The use of disinformation to promote fear is quite striking when we look at how in recent years some political leaders have been increasingly spreading conspiracy theories. But is there a way to know when we come across a conspiracy theory? Conspiracy theories are not always easily spotted as they are often be pitched as questions or an opposition to an official account rather than proposing any concrete details that can be put to the test. But those types of ‘arguments’ are a clue that a conspiracy theory is afoot.

 But what about when the fear tactic is more nuanced than a conspiracy theory? You should check the facts. Be wary because cognitive dissonance may cause you to choose fake sources that confirm your programmed bias. Make that ‘cognitive dissonance’ your friend. When you have that uncomfortable feeling caused by mental conflict let it steer you to seek out multiple, reputable, nonpartisan sources of information, instead of giving into the urge to reject information that contradicts your ‘memories,’ and ‘beliefs.’
It is up to you to change yourself. No one can make you see the truth – especially if you are programmed with lies.

 Many media outlets are propaganda sites that carry highly emotional content intended to exacerbate anxiety and pollute your mind. There is evidence that highly emotional content is more likely to be shared on social media, such as Twitter and Facebook, and it is a good practice to train yourself to recognize the deceptive sources.

 Can you change others?

If you’re planning to reach across the divide, ask yourself what your motivation is. Whether you’re trying to change someone’s mind or the way they vote, or just stay connected, you should try to understand people on the other side and do what you can to make them feel safe and understood.  Beyond that, trying to argue facts or sharing stats may be counterproductive. The greatest mistake people make in trying to have dialogue across lines is assuming that providing info or a statistic or research will persuade someone on the other side. The reality is that staying curious about the others’ viewpoints and maintaining a relationship goes a lot further.

 You cannot change others; you can only change yourself.

Gaslighting

Gaslighting 

Gaslighting is emotional manipulation used to gain power over victims. It works much better than you might think. Everyone is susceptible.  It is common behavior for abusers (Spouse, sibling, or child), dictators (Putin), narcissists (Trump), cults (QAnon, most religions), propagandists (Fox News), internet trolls (Facebook ‘friend’), and common assholes (The guy next door).  

Gaslighting is done slowly, so victims don’t realize how much they've been brainwashed. Frustrated gaslighters can become very aggressive and abusive when they are not having the desired effect on their victim. The Stockholm syndrome is a coping mechanism where the victim of gaslighting develops ac

1. They tell blatant lies. You know it's an outright lie. Yet they lie with a straight face. Why are they so blatant? Because they're setting up with big lies so you will think the little lies are true. They Keep you confused unsteady and off-kilter unable to discern truth. Many gaslighters hold false memories of past events and, consequently, believe their own lies. It is impossible for the victim to correct the gaslighter’s false recollections.

 2. They deny they ever said something, even though you have proof. You know they said they would do something; you know you heard it. But they out and out deny it. Remember, a typical gaslighter is delusional and believes their own fabrications. They seem so sure that it makes you start questioning your reality. They are setting you up to blame yourself or someone else. And the more they do this, the more they get you to question your reality and start accepting theirs.  If you don’t fall for their ruse they will become increasingly agitated and abusive.

 3. They use what is near and dear to you as ammunition. Your family, faith, patriotism, and values are their ammunition. The gaslighter tells you, you are a bad parent, going against God, unpatriotic, are a terrible friend, or don’t care about family if you go against them. They attack your emotional foundation of friends and family.

 4. They try to wear you down over time. This is one of the insidious things about gaslighting—it is done gradually, over time. A lie here, a lie there, a snide comment every so often...and then it starts ramping up. Even the brightest, most self-aware people can be sucked into gaslighting—it is that effective. And if you don’t succumb, the gaslighter goes off the rails.

 5. Their actions do not match their words. When dealing with a person or entity that gaslights, look at what they are doing rather than what they are saying. What they are saying means nothing; it is just talk. What they are doing is the issue.  They make promises and threats they never keep.

 6. They throw in positive reinforcement to trip you up. This person or entity that is cutting you down, telling you that you don't have value, insults you relentlessly suddenly starts praising you for something you did or complementing you for some trait or skill. This adds an additional sense of uneasiness. You think, "Well maybe they aren't so bad." Yes, they are. This is a ruse to keep you off-kilter, to suck you into their net. Look at what you were praised for; it is probably something that served the gaslighter. 

 7. They use confusion to weaken you. Gaslighters pray on a person’s  sense of stability and normalcy. Their goal is to uproot this and make you constantly question everything. And humans' natural tendency is to look to the person or entity that will help you feel more stable—and that happens to be the gaslighter.

 8. They project. They are a liar, yet they are constantly accusing others of lying. They cheat, then blame you of cheating. They hate but blame accuse you of being the hater. They manipulate, while blaming you of manipulating.

 9. They try to align people against you. Gaslighters are masters at manipulating and finding the people they know will stand by them no matter what. They use these people against you. They will make comments such as, “Mary agrees that you did that,” "Everyone says you are wrong,” or "Your behavior is causing you to lose friends." Keep in mind it does not mean this true. A gaslighter is a constant liar. When the gaslighter uses social acceptance as a tactic it makes you feel like you don't know who to trust or turn to—and that leads you do what the gaslighter wants. They are using false peer pressure to manipulate you.  If you have a separate supportive social network they will attack those in that group.

 10. They tell you or others that you are misled, brainwashed, even crazy. This is one of the most effective tools of the gaslighter, because it's dismissive. The gaslighter knows if they question their victim’s thinking then people will not believe the victim when he suggests the gaslighter is abusive and manipulating.

 11. They tell you everyone else is a liar. By telling you that everyone else (your family, friends, and the media) is a lying, it again makes you question your reality. You've never known someone with the audacity to do this, so they must be telling the truth, right? No. It's a manipulation technique. It makes people turn to the gaslighter for the "correct" information—which isn't correct information at all. Only Fox News provides “Fair and Balances” truth.

 Your best defense against a gaslighter is to ghost them. If that is difficult or impossible, the next best thing is to understand what they are doing and build your resistance. Don’t let them trigger an emotional response from you. Tell others what is going on and cultivate social interactions away from the gaslighter. Be prepared for an angry tirade.